"What do you say to friends who say "I'm sure you will get well soon"? What is the basis of their faith that I'm actually not dying, but merely undergoing a phase that will be temporary before life starts kicking in again? Do they know something that I don't? Do they realise the seriousness and extent of my disease? That tumours tend to grow rather than shrink spontaneously? That death is statistically, historically, even philosophically more certain that life?
The enthusiasm to believe that I will get better is based on the reluctance to think about the concept of death, to try to understand what death means. Of course death is frightening. That's a natural biological reaction. Every living thing strives to stay alive. And death is all the more frightening when you have to watch it unfold before yourself. But you achieve absolutely nothing by refusing to acknowledge it. You do not comfort me with your assurance that I won't die, because escaping death is not what I'm longing for. What I'm longing for is for you to understand what death is. Look it in the eye and see it for what it is. And then you'll see that understanding death is the only one and true liberation... " --taken from http://dyingis.blogspot.com/2004/11/dying-day-3.html . May Grace rest in peace...

I took out this part from her blog because i feel that this can apply to other cases other than death. Sometimes things gets very certain to a state that consoling someone by telling him/her that s/he's fine is actually v irritating instead of finding it helping.. Consoling by helping the person lessen their pain will be more helpful in my opinion..

Wed know appeal results. Wish me luck..!